Daily Archives: January 18, 2010

Stop Watching the Show?

Question:

 

i have a problem. i watch this show alot called degrassi. maybe youve heard of it maybe u havent. anyway it is a really good show but it discuses sex quite a bit and even though im very mature about that for my age (11) i dont know if i would be allowed to watch it. its rated pg and im allowed to watch pg shows and movies. some pg13 ones to but i still dont know. degrassi is sorta like a teen soap opera since it is all about dating and stuff. butt still. one of the characters had a baby when she was 13 and then in the show when shes 16 shes taking care of her three year old daughter and focusing on her schoolwork. my parents dont know that i watch because im afraid that if i tell them theyll say im not allowed to wach it. what should i o? should i stop watching the show? should i tell my parents and hope they say yes? or should i keep on watching it secretly? please help.

    p.s. i love your alice series. ive read all of them that r out including intensly alice.

Phyllis replied:

 

I’m wondering what it is you’re trying to tell me.  You say that you are allowed to watch PG movies and that you are mature about sex for an eleven year old, so I wonder what is making you uneasy.  I don’t know the program you mention, but it sounds as though they are trying to show a teenager who made a mistake at 13, and is now trying to straighten out her life, get an education, and raise a daughter at the same time.  Somehow I don’t think you feel that this story is going to make you want to get pregnant at 13 too.  And I’m sure you know that some girls do have sexual intercourse at an early age, and that some of them get pregnant, so that’s not news.  Is it possible that the program is realistic enough to show that teens do experience intense sexual feelings, and does this possibly arouse some feelings in you?  Perfectly natural.  A lot of things in our environment these days are sexually suggestive.  If there was something about sex in the program that you didn’t understand, you might want to ask your parents about it.  Simply tell them you’re watching a program about a 13 year old girl who made a mistake and is trying to do the best she can, but your question is………?

Something else to consider:  in those in-between years, between childhood and teenager, people start the scary business of slowly developing a more personal life and becoming more independent.  When  you were younger, you may have shared everything with your mom or dad–every thought, every feeling, anything at all you felt guilty about.  But slowly you begin to want to keep some things to yourself–boy interest, doubts about your body, arguments with teachers,  sexual feelings….  You may be wrestling with just how much of this program you want to share with your parents and which to keep to yourself.

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Religious Views

 

Question:

Hi Mrs. Naylor. I loved your books. I just finished intensely alice. It was funny when she was in the plane and embarrassed that man so he would leave her alone. 
It was sad when ___ passed away. I almost cried. But I did cry when patrick went up and started talking. Also when alice wondered how ___ felt when everything was happening. If he knew he would die. She hoped the music was up real loud. 
 
Throughout the series, you mentioned elizabeth being catholic. I am catholic just like her. I think it’s great you mentioned this particular religion. Most people think of catholics as super religious freaks and it hurts when people say that to me. You didn’t make elizabeth a religious freak at all. Thank you. Maybe people will understand the catholic religion and won’t put a label on those who are catholic. 
 
You had lots of religious veiws in your books. Not just catholic. You write how a lot of the characters feel about God. I think that’s so great. 
 
What made you want to put different religious veiws in your books? 
 

Phyllis replied:

 

I think that whether young people talk about it or not, many have a lot of religious or spiritual questions.  Most people, perhaps, remain in whatever religion they were brought up in, and never get too familiar with those who have different beliefs.  Often they have weird ideas about another religion.  But I think that Baptists and Unitarians and Jews and Mormons and Muslims would tell you that people have strange ideas about their religions as well.  And because I’m trying to present a “whole” girl in the Alice series–not necessarily a typical girl or an all-American girl, but a real character–it seems to me that it would be a very real part of her life.  I’m glad you like the books.

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Did I Make the Right Choice?

Question:

 jst gotta say that i love ur  books they r beyond beyond uhh-mazing lol well i need ur adivce on sumthing well here the story. ok my best friend “J” and me use to hang out like all the time with my other friend “A”

nd “A”  feels like the thrid wheel(she has told me so b4) so i felt really bad so after that i started hanging out with her alot more often then i did with “J” @ school and i guess”J” hangs with her group nd all but she like asking me why i hang out with “A” nd starting 2 saying that im too nice that i shoulnt be with her she annoying nd blah blah nd that ppl will think im a goodie gooide in highschool (im in 8grade rite now)
 nd i dont really think “A” all that bad wat im saying is that did i make a good chooce on hanging out with “A” or should i go back to “J” nd her group cuz im kinda confuesed rite now nd i dont want any drama rite now
 
Phyllis replied:
 
 
Does it really and truly have to be an either/or situation?  You can’t hang out with J and her friends some of the time and do things with A at other times?  Sometimes you girls make it so hard for yourselves.  I look forward to the time that middle school and high school girls will pay more attention to the individual person and not judge a girl simply by her friends.  If you like A, hang out with her!  When you get the chance, hang out with J, without A.  Life is too short to fence yourself in.

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“I Like Him, He Likes Her”

Question:

I saw this title on your website for the Alice McKinley books. Is this a new Alice book?

Phyllis replied:

 

Oh, man.  I didn’t know they’d posted that already.  The book isn’t even out, and I don’t know when it will be–sometime this year, though.   But for all you collectors out there who want the whole Alice series, the publisher is planning to do paperback “bind-ups” of three Alice books at a time.  They are starting with Alice in ninth grade, and the three books, under the title “I Like Him, He Likes Her,” are “Alice Alone,” “Patiently Alice,” and “Simply Alice.”  They plan to do her sophomore year at some point, then her junior year, then her senior year.  I don’t know what they will title these books.  I don’t know if they will go backwards at some point, and do all the eighth grade books and the seventh grade books, etc.  All I know right now is that a huge manuscript is sitting on my dining room table waiting for me to check the copy in this humongous thing.  But I do like the title, and the cover is great.

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