Devastated About His Death

Comment:

I’m writing this from my living room couch having just finished the Alice series and I could not help but to write to you. I started with the Alice series in ninth grade, on a vacation in Florida as a splurge purchase. I had some catching up to do, but once I fell in love with the series, I started reading them every year of my life. I quite literally grew up with Alice, refraining from reading her compilation of books until I was experiencing the same grade myself. The similarities were uncanny. From the New York City class trip that I also took myself in Grade 10, to her aspirations for counseling. I was both in love and intrigued with her story, daydreaming myself in her friend group on a number of occasions. In my mind, I would have dated Mark, and was devastated when I read about his death. Words are unexplainable to how her stories helped me prepare and overcome my own. I will never forget series and am forever thankful for being able to experience it.

Phyllis replied:

Thanks so much for your email, especially your feelings about Mark!  Gosh……if I had known!   I know what it’s like, though, to think of the characters as real people.  I do it sometimes myself, and think I actually knew a girl named Alice in Silver Spring.  I’m glad the series meant so much to you.  I suppose you’ve heard by now that the whole series will be out as a collection this summer, in three boxed sets of paperbacks.

Grew up With Alice

Comment:

I don’t quite remember how I ended up here or what made me think of the Alice series. What I do know, is that I ordered all of the Alice books on Amazon and plan on re-reading them immediately. Thinking of Alice and all of the wonderful stories you created immediately brought me back to my childhood. I grew up with Alice all through out elementary school, middle school and even the first year of high school. But then life happened and I forgot about Alice. I forgot about all of the characters I once saw in each and every one of my friends. I forgot about the characters that taught me so much about growing up and made being an only child, not so lonely. Alice was like the sister I never had and until today, I hadn’t given her a second thought. I laughed with Alice, I cried and now I’m finding out that after so many years the series has ended. Alice grew up, just as I had. I haven’t read the final book just yet but I want to thank you Ms. Naylor for bringing Alice into my life and to so many others. I am now 26 years old and re-reading your books helped remind me how much Alice has shaped me and been there for me throughout my most awkward and somewhat embarrassing years. There will never be a character quite like her and I cannot wait to give my future daughter the opportunity to learn and grow with Alice just as I had.

Phyllis replied:

You made my day. Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me.  I’m sure that I grew and evolved along with Alice, during those 28 years I wrote about her.  The whole collection will be available this summer as three boxed sets, but I’m glad you were able to find them all on Amazon.  Perhaps Alice was the daughter I never had, but it was a delight to write about her, and hard to say goodbye.  I’m happy that she meant so much to you.

Binge Reading the Last Alice Book

Comment:

I just finished reading the last book of the Alice series. I am crying so much right now. I never thought picking up one random book from the library would change my life. Thank you so much for writing these books. I finished the last book in 12 hours(crazy right). I can not thank you enough.
-Joslyn

Phyllis replied:

I know how you feel, having wanted to just melt into books I loved.  I couldn’t tell from your email whether you were familiar with the Alice series or not.  If not, you have 27 other Alice books waiting for you.   And I’m grateful to my publisher for bringing them out in June as a collection, in 3 paperback boxed sets.  Thank you for taking time to write to me.  It really means a lot.

Catching up with Alice [SPOILER ALERT]

Comment:

Wow, it’s been almost 3 years since I wrote my first email to you. Back then I was 11 and I guess I’m still not that old, but I’m in high school now! It’s mind blowing how much I’ve changed, both physically and emotionally. I’ve read tons of books throughout the years, disliked some and loved some, but somehow I always come back to Alice. I think the impact is just too much to ever shake off.

I love emailing you. I just absolutely love it. I love checking your website to see that you’ve responded to my email.  Last year it totally slipped my mind and I’m back this year haha. But enough about me, time to get into my adoration for Alice:

I first saw Alice when I was 8, maybe. So 6 years ago. I was in the public library with my sisters and brother browsing for some new books to read. I’m pretty sure it was “Alice in Rapture, Sort of” that I saw. I remember that the cover was of Alice in a cute little bikini and Patrick with his soft and beachy but also fiery red hair. I was into romance (and still am) so I decided to give it a try. It was the book where Alice and Patrick kissed on her porch, I think and I remember Alice going inside and seeing Patrick pop a mint in his mouth. Anyway, I remember that it was summer and I was laying on my back reading it. I was on my old kiddie-ish bed that my sister still sleeps on to this day. I remember (this may sound weird to some) smelling the worn-out, yellow-ish pages and thinking, “Gosh this book is so dirty.” Six years later, I love that smell. I associate it with Alice, and that’s why it brings me simultaneous nostalgia and bittersweet happiness. I wish I went to the library more. I miss that smell.

After returning the book, I forgot about Alice. Yes, I’m extremely ashamed but I forgot about her. Then, a couple years later (maybe when I was 11 or 12), I rediscovered Alice. I wish I remembered how but I don’t. So I bought the first couple of books, pretty sure that this was the book from my past. I was so elated when I figured it out! I’m pretty sure I was screaming and jumping up and down.

Form that day forward I was totally obsessed with the series. I bought all the books, maybe 3 or 4 at a time on Amazon and read them as quickly as I could. My goal was to finish in time for when the last book came out. I completed my goal and the book completely surpassed my expectations. I just pulled it out maybe an hour ago, read a few pages and had to email you. I love rereading all the books, but “Now I’ll Tell You Everything” especially. It documents so much of her life that I feel like I’m reading the span of 10 typical Alice books, all neatly packaged in one.

The cover of “Now I’ll Tell You Everything” is amazing. I feel like all these years, I thought of Alice as almost an imaginary friend, even though I read about all her crazy life experiences. When I saw her, everything solidified. I could finally place a face to one of my favorite people of all time. I have a question: Did you approve of the model for the cover? Did you choose her, or did you never meet her? I feel like the model has such big shoes to fill as Alice.

Alice is such a genuinely good person. Sure, she fumbled sometimes, but her intentions were always kind. I knew that if any of her loved ones were going through a rough time, she would be there for them. Like when Pamela got pregnant, Alice and Elizabeth stood by her side, especially after she miscarried. They knew when to draw boundaries and not get too personal, but also when Pamela needed guidance.

Pamela and Elizabeth are such spectacular characters. They may seem normal to some readers, but they’re special because they represent all the girls and boys out there who are like them: some are shy and quiet, and some are outgoing and charismatic. And then there’s some who are in between, like Alice. Lester and Ben (Alice’s dad) were so awesome. Even as they aged and progressed through their lives, they made sure to be there for Alice. Despite the age difference, Alice and Lester formed such a strong bond throughout the series. When Stacy got pregnant with Lester’s triplets, I was so happy. He has such a paternal feel to him, even if he is reckless and lets loose from time to time. Those 3 babies deserve what Alice got: silly and sarcastic advice.

I’m not too sure why I decided to email you again. You already know that your readers love you as well as Alice, but you deserve to hear it infinity times.Random question: Who are some of your favorite artists? By that I mean music. And favorite TV shows? Did you ever watch Gilmore Girls? God, I love that show.

This is a weird ending, but despite its peculiarity please know that you have impacted my life in a very profound way. Alice will always burn on in my heart.

Phyllis replied:

You had a lot of catching up to do, didn’t you, and I’m so glad you followed Alice through the final book.  Thank you for taking the time to write your long email.  You might find my website interesting, http://www.phyllisnaylor.com but to answer a few of your questions, I’m primarily interested in classical music, folk music, and Dixieland, so I loved The Weavers, and Simon and Garfunkel.  I don’t think I’ve watched The Gilmore Girls, but I love series, such as Breaking Bad, The Sopranos, The Good Wife, House of Cards….  Yes, I approved the cover of Now I’ll Tell You Everything, but I didn’t meet the model.  The publisher chose her.  I think most readers have their own version of what  Alice looked like over the years.  I’m so glad that everything came together for you in the final book.

Pamela’s Pregnancy

Comment:

Re-reading some of the later books, I realized a big problem I had with Pamela’s pregnancy plot. The fact that it could have been so easily avoided and in multiple ways. The first, of course, would be for her to tell Tim that she refuses to have sex without any form of protection or to simply tough it out, her being part of Guys and Dolls was not the end of the world and they could get together after, anyway.

The other ways she could have appeased him, and one that I’m surprised she never thought about, was to simply give him a hand- or blowjob. It’s not like Pamela had never done either of those, so she wasn’t inexperienced and she could have avoided the problem with a potential pregnancy. (And if her reason would be that she can’t touch her boyfriend’s penis, then I think she quite frankly shouldn’t be having sex to begin with)

Then again, I always did find it weird how the characters in the books acted like condoms were the only form of birth control there was around. Certainly, Alice eventually takes both the pill and uses condoms, but what about the other forms of contraceptives? Most might not have the same high success rate and addition of protecting from STDs like condoms, but it’s strange that they are basically ignored.

It could be that I’m simply confused, because I started taking the pill when I was 17. Not for the sake of protection during sex, but because my gynecologist said it would help regulate my periods, which were very sporadic and caused me to have heavy health issues when it did come around. Why didn’t Pamela start taking the pill when she became sexually active?

Phyllis replied:

Thank you for your email. You’re right, of course; there are multiple ways Pamela could have prevented that pregnancy, assuming she was carefully thinking ahead and controlling her emotions. But there are also multiple reasons that an impulsive girl like Pamela would not. Do you ever watch Teen Mom? Are you sometimes surprised, as I am, that when these young mothers are interviewed—even though they have had a baby and are involved in multiple problems with the boys who impregnated them—that they admit they still only use condoms “most of the time” with new boyfriends, but not always? You seem to imply that it’s only Pamela’s boyfriend who was sexually excited. Can’t you imagine that cuddling together, touching and stroking, would excite Pamela too—that she might want sex as much as Tim? These girls would need a doctor’s prescription for the pill, and they wouldn’t be able to see a doctor unless they had a way to pay for a visit. And that would mean getting a parent’s permission, etc. We don’t think of all these things in the heat of the moment, and not all girls plan ahead. But your email brings up a subject that girls should think about before they get involved with a guy, and with the pill, the patch, condoms, or no intercourse at all, each girl should be able to plan her personal life the way that suits her best.

Comment:

Of course I would think Pamela would want to get her rocks off, too. But masturbation is an option. Maybe even mutual masturbation. (Though that, too, has its risks) And, of course, there is the option of telling her to suck it up as well. Can’t say I watch Teen Mom – I tend to avoid watching shows that seem to almost glamorize idiotic behavior, like similar shows with 16 And Pregnant. No matter heat of the moment, I do not think one should allow their hormones to override one’s common sense. I went through my teen years keeping my head on my shoulders – though I have to say, I have huge issues with body contact between people and had no desire to get a boyfriend until I was almost 18, so perhaps I was just a really odd teenager. Maybe that’s why Alice being so amazed that Molly didn’t feel the need for a ‘boyfriend badge’ confused me so much in Alice On Her Way.

Phyllis replied:

We all mature at different rates and in different ways.  A person can show super grown-up traits in one area, and lag a bit behind in another.  So while we can tell someone what they ought to do, or how they ought to feel, we can’t know what it is like to be in their skin.  And being so individual and unique is what makes us so wonderfully human.

Silly, Sad, Embarrassed, and Excited

Comment:

Hi I am a huge Alice FAN!! I have read your Alice books over and over again but this time in order because I never get tired of reading them. I currently finished Achingly Alice and I’m going to read Alice on the Outside. Boy your books really make me happy, silly, sad, embarrassed, and excited! I really want to know why u stopped writing and never made more movies about Alice because it would be a huge hit! Also these Alice stories are they based about how you were when you were in all those grades Alice was? Like Did it really happen to you? I would really just like to know. Well thanks for writing awesome books!

Phyllis replied:

Well, I knew I had to stop writing them sometime, and I decided that once she was through college, it would be a good time to take her life in leaps, rather than three books about each year of her life.  There are so many other books I want to write!  Yes, some of the things that happened to Alice happened to me or to someone I knew.  The Tarzan incident in The Agony of Alice happened to me when I was in fourth grade.  Being fired from her job in high school because she took time off to go on vacation with her family happened to me also.  And falling down the stairs and wetting her pants on her first day of high school happened to my mom back in 1914 on her first day of high school.  As for movies, I didn’t have much to do with the movie Alice Upside Down, though I liked some of the actors.  Whether anyone will make movies of the rest of the books, I really don’t know.  A nice idea, though.

Life Lessons

Comment:

I just wanted to say, thank you SO much for making an amazing series. Your books have given me life lessons and morals that everyone needs in their lives. Its sad that your series ended but it ended in such an amazing way.

Phyllis replied:

I’m happy that you found the ending of the series satisfying.  It’s always hard to say goodbye–hard for the reader and hard for the writer.  But there are so many more books in my head of other characters in other places, that I have a lot more work to do.  Thanks for taking the time to email me.

Questions about Crazy and Embarrassing Things

Comment:

I ended the last Alice book last night and i must say that it was one of the best! The idea of ending the last book with the memories was very nice. I began to read your books with nine years and i loved them so much.Now i am 17 years old and i´m from Germany so i`m really sorry if my english isn´t good but i hope you understand. The Alice books are only published to the 14th book so I began to read the rest on english(what really helped me in school) I must say that I grew older and older with Alice by my side and she helped me in a lot of situations . Youre books are sore wonderfull, emotional and real! They made my cry and laugh at the same time and as i was a girl i really could identify with Alice because she had so much questions about crazy and embarrassing things. You teached me alot with youre books about love, friendship,racism,gays and lesbians, get involved  and becoming self-conscious .You helped me to grow up and you answerd so many questions in youre books and i have the feeling that i have to thank you for all that. I must thank you for all those sleepless nights in wich i couldn´t stop to read youre books. I must thank you for all those things you teached me and all those moments you made me smile and cry .And also a big thank you to help me to learn english because reading your books motivated me and helped me a lot.So last but not least must thank you for creating Alice as a role model for me!

I am believe that in every little girl is in some kind a part of an Alice and I am sure that you helped a lot of people. I don´t even know you but I send you the best wishes for youre life and a lot of success. You would make me really really happy if you send me an answer because i like you so much. Please send me only a feedback that you read this e-mail.
and please never forget that you changes more lifes than you could believe

Phyllis replied:

It’s really wonderful to know that Alice was there for you in so many ways, and answered so many of your questions.  I admire the readers for whom English is a second language and they use the Alice books to help them learn.  Thank you for taking the time to write to me.  Your letters help me more than you can imagine.

Read it in Twenty-Four Hours

Comment:

Thank you for indulging me by reading this email. I’m sure you get many fan emails and none are terribly original, but I have to try. My name is
Stefanie Kahanov, and I grew up in Montgomery County, MD (Olney, to be
specific). My aunt first gave me the Alice books when I began middle school and I was very quickly hooked. I followed the series all the way through high school, scouring library shelves and Borders at White Flint for the latest books in the series. I loved that not only could I identify with the main character and plot lines, but also the area in which it took place.

Well beyond your target demographic, I discovered that you had written the final installment in the Alice series. Naturally, as a devoted reader, I
read the final book in under 24 hours and finished it this morning a bit
after midnight. I need to thank you. I was a healthy combination of
Alice and Elizabeth (growing up and even now), and I need to thank you for making them complex and realistic while they aged. Giving them dimensions and purpose is the best gift I have received as a reader in 2015. Sad as I am to see the series end, I am grateful for the foray into their adulthood, not simply a “happily ever after” at marriage.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you for the gift of these characters,
their triumphs and trials, loves, losses, and most of all their companionship when I had none. I now work as a speech pathologist in the Montgomery County School System, and it’s been a while since I opened that first Alice book, which I recommend to my students very frequently. Thank you for showing that there’s even love for a goody-two-shows like Elizabeth, like me, in the word. That there is power in reason and practicality, like Alice. That there is magic in spontaneity, like Pamela. Thank you for my book-bound childhood friends.

Phyllis replied:

What a lovely New Year’s gift your email was–to know that the books were your companion.  And I was delighted to hear that you are a speech
pathologist in Montgomery  County Schools.  My husband was a speech
pathologist at Walter  Reed Hospital in D.C., then at the National Naval
Medical Center in Bethesda, and I’ve just had published a book, “Going
Where It’s Dark,” that concerns both a boy who stutters and a speech
pathologist in the plot. (Plus cave exploring and more).   I’m so happy
that you can identify with all the Alice characters in  some way.  Wishing
you a Happy New Year!

Enjoyed Them Even More in English

Comment:

Today I would like to thank you very much for writing your Alice books. They have accompanied me throughout all my teenage years. Sometimes I feel like I grew up with Alice as a good friend and guide by my side. Reading the Alice book series has given me so much in my life. I laughed and I cried with Alice.

I’m from Germany and I got introduced to your book series by a friend when I was in middle school. After having read the first book I couldn’t stop and read all of the ones which were available at that time.  Unfortunately at some point in time they stopped translating the books to German so I just switched to reading them in English. I must say that I fell in love with your books even more when I started to read them in their original language.

I think you are a magnificent author with an extraordinary spelling style. You are able to touch people’s hearts by your words. I really think you should know that.

Now I am 23 years old and looking back on my teenager years I must inevitably think of my journey with Alice. I believe she helped and guided me through many phases of my life. Those books brought so much joy to me – thank you for writing them and thereby being a big support for many girls around the world!

Much love from Germany and a very merry Christmas to you and your loved ones.

Phyllis replied:

What a lovely message to begin the holiday season!  I’ve always wondered if my books are enjoyed more in English than in translation. I wish all my Alice readers a happy time with family and friends.  For me, the New Year will find my brother in Oregon, one granddaughter in India, another in Australia, my older son and his wife in Minnesota, so I will be spending Christmas with the one relative I’ve got closer, our younger son and his family in New Jersey.  Many families, I know, are spread out across the country and across the globe, and it’s wonderful that we have so many ways to connect.  May the New Year bring some peace and calm to our lives and to this world.